Overcome Pornography for Good coach Jessica Farmer is here to answer this week’s Ask a Coach question! Here's the question on which she's offering her thoughts today: “I watched porn after being clean for six months. I feel a bit disappointed and shameful on one hand, but also feel guilty for not feeling guilty enough. Do you have any thoughts on what it looks like for me to come back from this?”
Many of us have received the conditioning that men are typically the sexual ones in a relationship and that they have an insatiable sexual need that has to be satisfied. In the context of a monogamous relationship, the responsibility to fulfill that sexual need falls on the partner, but this belief often doesn’t create great results.
Last week, we dove into the reward system in our brain that produces a seemingly automatic urge or over-desire for pornography. I touched on the subconscious training of our brains to seek out dopamine-producing substances, whether that be porn (or sugar in my case), and I promised you a way to retrain your brain out of that over-desire.
I received a question in the Overcome Pornography for Good program this week during one of our coaching sessions. Someone asked, “I don’t know what I’m buffering from. Is it possible that this can just be a habit and not just a buffer every time?" And my answer was yes.
