Overcome Pornography - Should Your Spouse Fulfill Your Sexual Needs? with Amanda Louder

Episode 117: Should Your Spouse Fulfill Your Sexual Needs? with Amanda Louder

Overdesire| Over-Desire| Quitting Pornography| Shame| Solution| Relationship| Betrayal Trauma
April 10, 2023•2 min read

Many of us have received the conditioning that men are typically the sexual ones in a relationship and that they have an insatiable sexual need that has to be satisfied. In the context of a monogamous relationship, the responsibility to fulfill that sexual need falls on the partner, but this belief often doesn’t create great results.

To dive into this topic, I’m talking to sex coach Amanda Louder. I often recommend Amanda to my clients so she is no stranger to the Overcome Pornography for Good program. She’s also the host of the Sex for Saints podcast, and she helps women learn to embrace their sexuality and love their sex life.

Listen in this week to hear why we have to reframe the belief that your spouse should fulfill your sexual needs. Amanda is sharing where this belief comes from, what you miss out on when you believe this messaging, and her top tips for what actually creates the best, most fulfilling sexual relationship.

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment toward quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me!

 

What You'll Learn from this Episode:

  • How to reframe the belief that you need to fulfill your spouse’s sexual wants.

  • Why women typically don’t have the same urge and physiological push towards sex.

  • How the belief might be harming your relationship. 

  • Amanda’s tips for connecting with your spouse, even if they aren’t interested in sex.

  • Why your sexuality is both a gift and your responsibility.

  • Amanda’s insights on how to have a beautiful and fulfilling sexual relationship with your spouse.

  

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Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma-informed coach. She has helped over a thousand people quit porn through her coaching programs and tens of thousands through her highly-rated podcast, Overcome Pornography for Good. Sara shares her story in her free webinars, but the simple version is that she saw shame's role in compulsive pornography use, and after developing a process focused on addressing shame as the root, her clients saw amazing success. This is why The Center for Overcoming Pornography exists.

Sara Brewer

Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma-informed coach. She has helped over a thousand people quit porn through her coaching programs and tens of thousands through her highly-rated podcast, Overcome Pornography for Good. Sara shares her story in her free webinars, but the simple version is that she saw shame's role in compulsive pornography use, and after developing a process focused on addressing shame as the root, her clients saw amazing success. This is why The Center for Overcoming Pornography exists.

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