In a recent podcast episode with Jessica Farmer, we delved deep into the purpose of disclosure and how to navigate disclosing aspects of your porn habit with loved ones. However, a conversation we need to have in parallel to disclosure is about boundaries. It’s a topic we aren’t taught enough about, especially when it comes to porn use.
here is so much pressure on both parties in a relationship when it comes to one spouse’s porn use. Women have been taught to believe something terrible about themselves if their husbands look at porn, and men equally have a specific kind of pressure society expects them to carry.
Many of us have received the conditioning that men are typically the sexual ones in a relationship and that they have an insatiable sexual need that has to be satisfied. In the context of a monogamous relationship, the responsibility to fulfill that sexual need falls on the partner, but this belief often doesn’t create great results.
When one person in a relationship has been viewing pornography, their partner can see this as a betrayal. In these situations, it’s common for there to be some hiding or lying on one side and potentially some betrayal trauma once the porn use has been disclosed. So, how can you create trust when these difficult relationship dynamics come up? Well, my guest this week is here to answer that exact question.
