Ask a Coach: Shame vs Guilt (Overcome Pornography)

Episode 144: Ask a Coach: Shame vs Guilt

October 16, 20232 min read

Overcome Pornography for Good coach Jessica Farmer is here to answer this week’s Ask a Coach question!

Here's the question on which she's offering her thoughts today: “I watched porn after being clean for six months. I feel a bit disappointed and shameful on one hand, but also feel guilty for not feeling guilty enough. Do you have any thoughts on what it looks like for me to come back from this?”

Join Jessica on this episode as she walks you through how to investigate what “feeling guilty enough” means to you, why it’s always worth challenging your brain on anything it offers, especially if it’s unhelpful, and the difference between the emotions of shame and guilt. 

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What You'll Learn from this Episode: 

  • One question to ask yourself about feeling guilty for slipping up.

  • Why you must get specific about what would bring you a sense of resolution.

  • How slip-ups can be used as a means to learn and move on.

  • The power of differentiating shame and guilt.

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Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma-informed coach. She has helped over a thousand people quit porn through her coaching programs and tens of thousands through her highly-rated podcast, Overcome Pornography for Good.

Sara shares her story in her free webinars, but the simple version is that she saw shame's role in compulsive pornography use, and after developing a process focused on addressing shame as the root, her clients saw amazing success. This is why The Center for Overcoming Pornography exists.

Sara Brewer

Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma-informed coach. She has helped over a thousand people quit porn through her coaching programs and tens of thousands through her highly-rated podcast, Overcome Pornography for Good. Sara shares her story in her free webinars, but the simple version is that she saw shame's role in compulsive pornography use, and after developing a process focused on addressing shame as the root, her clients saw amazing success. This is why The Center for Overcoming Pornography exists.

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