Overcome Pornography for Good Podcast

Episode 180: Ask a Coach: How to Become Shame-Resilient

This week’s Ask a Coach question is one many of you can probably relate to, and it goes like this: “Does the shame I feel after slipping up and viewing porn ever really go away?” Shame is a universal human experience that all of us go through. While we can learn to move through shame in different and more useful ways, I don’t know that it’s possible to completely get rid of it. The good news is that while shame will continue to show up for us, what we can do is start developing shame-resilience. Coach Jessica Farmer is here this week to shed light on what it means to become shame-resilient and how to start practicing this skill. She’s showing you examples of how shame might be running the show, and the importance of noticing how shame is showing up in your life so you can respond to it intentionally, show yourself compassion, and move on.

Episode 182: What to Do When Everyone Around You Takes a Shame Approach

What do you do when it seems like everyone around you, whether it’s your church, partner, or even the state you live in, approaches porn with fear, shame, and panic tactics? If you’re learning new skills related to your porn use, they’re changing your life, and you’re feeling the benefits, but other people don’t get it, you’re not alone. Many people find themselves in situations where they feel relentlessly attacked by shame messages. While it might feel like it’s hindering your healing process, the truth is your power doesn’t come from other people finally getting it. Join me on this episode to learn what to do when everyone around you takes a shame approach to porn. I’m showing you how your peace and freedom come from not participating in these narratives, some ways you might choose to step out of the line of fire, and how, when you learn to do this, you can make a much bigger difference in your community.

Episode 142: Ask a Coach: The Shame of Slipping Up

We are currently on a podcast season break and regular podcasting will resume January 1st 2024! While we’re on a hiatus, we are still going to be bringing you brand new content every single week by sharing an Ask a Coach Q&A from me or one of our coaches inside Overcome Pornography for Good. The first question from Ask a Coach I’ll be answering on this week’s episode is all about processing the shame that comes from feeling like you’ve made progress and checked all the boxes, and yet, you’ve still slipped up and viewed porn. Listen in today to hear my answer to the question of slipping up and processing the shame that comes from feeling like you’ve failed. I’m showing you why slipping up doesn’t mean you’re not progressing, and the importance of not discounting the work you’re doing, even if it isn’t manifesting right away.

Episode 46: Pillar One: Shame-Free Commitment

There are four pillars to consider when it comes to quitting porn, and I’m spending the next four episodes discussing each of them. So this week is the first pillar: shame-free commitment. Many of you have the commitment part down, but you’re missing the shame-free part, which actually makes it impossible to keep up with your commitment.