Episode 284: What if I’m Single, Divorced, or in a Sexless Marriage? Can I Still Befriend My Sexuality? (Part 4)
What’s possible when your sexuality belongs to you first? In this episode, I address a common question for those who are single, divorced, or in a sexless marriage: can you still befriend your sexuality? Many people are taught that sexual energy only belongs in a relationship, which creates confusion, shame, and reliance on others for regulation.
I explain why outsourcing your sexual relationship to a partner or marriage doesn’t resolve underlying issues and often leads to dependency or resentment. Befriending your own sexuality allows you to reclaim this energy, experience aliveness, and bring vitality and presence into all areas of your life. You’ll hear why this process is about returning to yourself, not self-abandonment.
You’ll learn why sexuality is yours to steward, how shame and distorted beliefs limit your vitality, and how curiosity and intentional practices help you integrate sexual energy safely and meaningfully. You’ll also learn about a 12-week live program that guides you to apply these principles and explore what’s possible when you befriend your sexuality.
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What You'll Learn from this Episode:
Why believing sexuality only belongs in a relationship creates confusion and shame.
How outsourcing sexual regulation to a partner impacts intimacy and connection.
How befriending your sexuality allows you to reclaim energy, aliveness, and presence.
Why this process is about returning to yourself, not self-abandonment.
How curiosity and intentional practices can integrate sexual energy meaningfully.
How the 12-week live program supports learning and self-trust.
How a healthy relationship with your sexuality can improve other areas of life.
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Episodes Related to Befriend Your Sexuality:
Episode 274: Physiology vs Morality: Reframing Your Urges and Shame
Episode 281: What I Got Wrong About Quitting Porn (Part 1 of 3)
Episode 282: The Number One Thing Required to Befriend Your Sexuality (Part 2 of 3)
Episode 283: What's Possible When You Befriend Your Sexuality (Part 3 of 3)
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