Episode 245: Be the Observer: You Are Not Your Thoughts
Do you find yourself believing every thought your brain throws at you? Our brains are wired to keep us safe, which often means defaulting to negativity and imagining worst-case scenarios. These patterns can create shame, frustration, and old habits that keep us stuck, including patterns around pornography use.
In this episode, I explore how you can step back and observe your thoughts instead of automatically identifying with them. Thoughts aren’t facts, and simply noticing them can release the pressure, fear, and self-criticism that so often hold us back. I share how approaching your thoughts with curiosity, rather than judgment, allows space for clarity and intentional action.
You’ll discover how infusing your thoughts with love and compassion shifts your relationship with your brain, creating room to respond instead of react. I walk you through practical ways to practice being the observer each day, guiding your human body with care, and letting love, rather than judgment, direct your decisions. This mindset shift opens the door to personal growth, emotional resilience, and a healthier approach to sexuality.
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What You'll Learn from this Episode:
Why our brains default to negative thinking and how this impacts habits like pornography use.
How to become the observer of your thoughts instead of being controlled by them.
The role of love and compassion in responding to challenging or critical thoughts.
How questioning your beliefs helps you regain control over your actions.
Practical strategies for noticing and redirecting thought patterns daily.
Why non-judgmental awareness is key to personal growth and transformation.
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