Episode 266: A New Way to Control Your Sexual Urges
Are you constantly trying to control your sexual urges by building stronger fences, adding more rules, or relying on willpower? If so, you might be stuck in the exhausting cycle of resisting, giving in, and starting over. In this episode, I’m revisiting a powerful metaphor that will completely change how you think about your sexuality and what it actually means to be in control of it.
Instead of treating your sexuality like something dangerous that has to be locked away, I invite you to imagine it differently. What if the goal isn’t to cage it, silence it, or fight it, but to learn how to tame it? I walk you through a new way of understanding control that isn’t about fear or force, but about building trust, leadership, and a healthy relationship with your own sexual energy.
You’ll learn why the willpower approach keeps you trapped in shame and exhaustion, and how shifting your mindset allows your sexuality to become something that adds to your life instead of threatening it. By the end of this episode, you’ll see that true control doesn’t come from building higher fences. It comes from learning how to lead your tiger with confidence, compassion, and strength.
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What You'll Learn from this Episode:
Why fear-based control keeps you stuck in the willpower and give-in cycle.
How the “tiger” metaphor reframes the way you see your sexuality.
The difference between caging your urges and taming them.
Why shame and suppression make urges louder and more aggressive.
What healthy leadership over your sexuality actually looks like.
How embracing your sexuality can create more freedom, not less.
Why hope and vision are essential to long-term change.
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Episodes Related to Sexual Urges:
Episode 58: Sexuality as a Force for Good with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Episode 261: Understanding Urges and Why They're Not Dangerous
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