Episode 265: How to Handle Urges That Keep Coming Back
Why do urges seem to disappear, only to come right back? If you’ve ever processed an urge and then felt discouraged when it returned, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening. I’m talking about urge flow, the natural pattern of urges coming and going, and why this is not a sign that you’re doing it wrong. It is part of learning how to handle them in a new way.
When you stop relying on willpower and start allowing urges instead of resisting them, they will ebb and flow. The goal is not to make them vanish. The goal is to become someone who can feel discomfort without reacting to it. In this episode, I share why trying to force urges away keeps you stuck and how building the skill of processing them creates real strength and confidence.
You’ll also learn how your thoughts create desire and why noticing those thoughts changes everything. When you understand what an urge actually is and how it works, you stop panicking when it shows up. This is the work that helps you stay committed and build lasting freedom.
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What You'll Learn from this Episode:
Why nothing has gone wrong when an urge returns.
The real purpose of processing urges.
How resisting urges makes them stronger.
Why urges only last about 90 seconds unless fueled by thoughts.
How your thoughts create desire and bring urges back.
How to redirect your thinking without trying to feel better immediately.
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