Episode 102: Creating Trust After Betrayal Trauma with Geoff Steurer
When one person in a relationship has been viewing pornography, their partner can see this as a betrayal. In these situations, it’s common for there to be some hiding or lying on one side and potentially some betrayal trauma once the porn use has been disclosed. So, how can you create trust when these difficult relationship dynamics come up? Well, my guest this week is here to answer that exact question.
Geoff Steurer is a licensed marriage and family therapist who has been helping couples and individuals repair and improve their most important relationships for over 20 years now. He focuses on helping couples recover from dealbreakers like infidelity, pornography use, and sexual addiction.
Tune in this week to discover how to start creating trust after betrayal trauma. Geoff Steurer is addressing the pain that occurs on both sides of the situation, what the porn viewer can do to heal themselves as they heal their relationship, and the power of coregulation as you move through betrayal trauma, navigate shame and begin to rebuild trust and intimacy.
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What You'll Learn from this Episode:
What betrayal trauma is and how it impacts a relationship.
Why betrayal trauma often comes up as a result of unwanted pornography use in a relationship.
How feelings of betrayal come more from the dishonesty or manipulation rather than the porn use itself.
What coregulation is and how it changes throughout life.
Geoff’s tips for regulating your nervous system as you stop viewing pornography.
The power of involving another person to support you in the recovery process.
Geoff’s thoughts about healthy shame and how it can guide you toward connection and reparation.
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