Episode 247: Changing Your Beliefs and Identity
Have you ever wondered why your thoughts about yourself or pornography feel so automatic and unchangeable? So often we treat beliefs like facts, but many of the things we tell ourselves repeatedly are just thoughts we’ve rehearsed until they feel true. Learning to separate facts from beliefs is the first step in taking control of your mind and your habits.
In this episode, I’m revisiting the beliefs and identity milestone, where we spend the most coaching time in the program. We focus on how repeated thoughts shape the beliefs you hold about yourself and pornography. Statements like "I can’t control myself" or "I’m not good enough" are not facts, they are beliefs that can be challenged. By noticing these beliefs, questioning them, and identifying evidence that contradicts them, you can begin to shift how you think about yourself and your actions.
The next step is practicing new thoughts until they feel natural. Using tools like bridge thoughts and the belief plan, you can replace old neural pathways with new ones that support your goals. This is the deep work that makes quitting pornography feel natural and sustainable. When you change the beliefs you hold, your choices, confidence, and sense of control follow.
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What You'll Learn from this Episode:
How beliefs are repeated thoughts that feel true but are not facts.
The three-step process to shift beliefs.
Why belief work is the foundation for lasting change beyond just managing urges.
How to separate facts from stories when examining your beliefs about yourself and pornography.
Using bridge thoughts to make large belief changes in manageable steps.
The importance of creating a belief plan to support your long-term success.
How new neural pathways form and why belief changes may feel uncomfortable at first.
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