Episode 290: What to Do With Urges: Resist, React, or Allow
What if the way you respond to your urges is the thing keeping you stuck? In this episode, I break down the three ways you can respond when an urge to view pornography comes up: resisting it, reacting to it, or allowing it. Understanding the difference between these approaches can completely change the way you handle urges.
I explain why using willpower and trying to push urges away doesn’t work long term, and why many people end up stuck in a cycle of resisting and reacting. Instead, I teach you what it means to allow an urge, process it, and build your ability to sit with discomfort without acting on it.
You’ll learn how to recognize the difference between resisting, reacting, and allowing, why processing urges builds your tolerance for discomfort, and how this skill can help you create more freedom in your life. This episode will help you approach urges differently and understand what becomes possible when you stop fighting them.
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What You'll Learn from this Episode:
Why resisting urges and relying on willpower does not create lasting change.
How the resist and react cycle keeps you stuck.
What it means to allow and process an urge without giving into it.
How allowing urges builds your tolerance for discomfort.
Why counting processed urges can be a better measure of progress than counting days.
How learning to handle discomfort can help you quit pornography and create change in other areas of your life.
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