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Episode 201: The Grip of Shame and Apathy Unraveled

November 25, 20242 min read

If you’ve ever struggled with feelings of shame, especially when trying to quit pornography, you know how destructive it can be. Shame can create a spiral that not only makes you feel like there’s something fundamentally wrong with you but also leads to a sense of apathy and hopelessness.

In this episode, I introduce a concept called the shame-apathy trap. This insidious cycle causes unnecessary pain and suffering, often without us even realizing it. I walk you through how it manifests in our lives and share actionable tips to help you break free.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not doing enough to overcome pornography, or if apathy is creeping in and amplifying your shame, this episode is for you. I show you why trying to care more or do more isn’t the solution and where your focus truly needs to be instead.

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment toward quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me!  

What You'll Learn from this Episode:

  • What the shame-apathy trap is and why it’s so harmful.

  • How repeated cycles of shame lead to apathy and inaction.

  • Why shame is such a destructive force when trying to quit pornography.

  • Where the shame-apathy trap shows up in real-life situations.

  • How you can start breaking free from this cycle with practical steps.

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Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma-informed coach. She has helped over a thousand people quit porn through her coaching programs and tens of thousands through her highly-rated podcast, Overcome Pornography for Good.

Sara shares her story in her free webinars, but the simple version is that she saw shame's role in compulsive pornography use, and after developing a process focused on addressing shame as the root, her clients saw amazing success. This is why The Center for Overcoming Pornography exists.

Sara Brewer

Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma-informed coach. She has helped over a thousand people quit porn through her coaching programs and tens of thousands through her highly-rated podcast, Overcome Pornography for Good. Sara shares her story in her free webinars, but the simple version is that she saw shame's role in compulsive pornography use, and after developing a process focused on addressing shame as the root, her clients saw amazing success. This is why The Center for Overcoming Pornography exists.

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