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Episode 233: Grieving the Loss of Porn with Jessica

July 07, 20252 min read

Have you ever felt sadness or confusion about letting go of something you desperately want out of your life? The grieving process often shows up in unexpected ways when you're trying to overcome pornography. It’s normal to experience complex emotions like grief, even when you know you want to quit. Understanding this emotional landscape can significantly transform your healing journey.

In this episode, Coach Jessica explores the three key areas where grief shows up while overcoming pornography. She discusses how letting go of porn as a coping mechanism creates a real sense of loss, even when your mind wants it gone. She also dives into the grief tied to the circumstances that led to porn use in the first place—whether that’s early exposure, lack of support, or missing healthy coping tools.

Using the five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—Jessica provides practical strategies for processing these emotions. You’ll learn how to move grief through your body and how accepting porn as part of your story can empower you to rewrite your future, leaving shame behind.

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What You'll Learn from this Episode:

  • Why grief is a crucial step in overcoming pornography.

  • The three key areas where loss arises during the process of letting go of pornography.

  • How the five stages of grief appear in the journey of overcoming pornography.

  • Practical tools like music, exercise, and storytelling to help process grief.

  • Why accepting porn as part of your story empowers you to create a new narrative.

  • The difference between intellectual desire to quit and emotional attachment to coping strategies.

  • How sharing your story with trusted people can accelerate healing.

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Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma-informed coach. She has helped over a thousand people quit porn through her coaching programs and tens of thousands through her highly-rated podcast, Overcome Pornography for Good.

Sara shares her story in her free webinars, but the simple version is that she saw shame's role in compulsive pornography use, and after developing a process focused on addressing shame as the root, her clients saw amazing success. This is why The Center for Overcoming Pornography exists.

Sara Brewer

Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma-informed coach. She has helped over a thousand people quit porn through her coaching programs and tens of thousands through her highly-rated podcast, Overcome Pornography for Good. Sara shares her story in her free webinars, but the simple version is that she saw shame's role in compulsive pornography use, and after developing a process focused on addressing shame as the root, her clients saw amazing success. This is why The Center for Overcoming Pornography exists.

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