Episode 295: Choosing Your Future Self Over Your Present Desire

Your present desire and your future desire can feel like they’re competing with each other. In this episode, I talk about the difference between these two desires and why understanding them can help you create a more compelling reason to quit pornography.

I explain why your present desire often focuses on immediate pleasure, escape, or relief, while your future desire is connected to the life you want to create. You’ll learn why fear and shame are not strong motivators for change and how connecting with your future self can help you make choices that align with what you truly want.

You’ll learn how to identify what your pornography use may be keeping you from creating, why shifting from consumption to creation can change your perspective, and how to love your future self enough to make choices that support the life you want.

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What You'll Learn from this Episode:

• The difference between present desire and future desire.

• Why fear and shame are not compelling reasons to quit pornography.

• How to create a stronger connection with your future self.

• What your pornography use may be keeping you from creating.

• Why shifting from consumption to creation can change your approach to quitting porn.

• How to make choices today that your future self will thank you for.

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Episodes Related to Your Future Self Over Your Present Desire:

• Episode 219: Living in the Future, Not the Past

• Episode 276: When It’s Really Difficult: Learning to Handle Discomfort

• Episode 291: Using Your Sexuality for Good with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

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