Overcome Pornography for Good with Sara Brewer | Ask a Coach: How to Process Urges Pressure-Free

Episode 220: Ask a Coach: How to Process Urges Pressure-Free

April 07, 20252 min read

Have you ever felt like you're doing all the “right” things to process urges, but it's just not working? You're not alone. Many of my clients express frustration that despite their best efforts to implement the tools they've learned, they still struggle with urges and don’t know why.

Today, Coach Kat shares a powerful insight that will completely transform your approach to urge processing. Kat explains why practicing urge management only during high-pressure moments may actually be limiting your progress.

Tune in this week for an Ask a Coach with Kat all about dealing with urges. You’ll learn why the key to mastering urge processing isn’t trying harder in a moment of pressure, and instead she shares some of the science behind the value of practicing deliberately in less pressurized scenarios.

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What You'll Learn from this Episode:

  • How practicing urge processing only under pressure creates narrow cognitive maps that limit your options.

  • Why the fight-or-flight response during strong urges actually inhibits effective learning.

  • How to use visualization as a powerful tool for practicing urge management without pressure.

  • The science behind latent learning and how it applies to overcoming pornography habits.

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Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma-informed coach. She has helped over a thousand people quit porn through her coaching programs and tens of thousands through her highly-rated podcast, Overcome Pornography for Good.

Sara shares her story in her free webinars, but the simple version is that she saw shame's role in compulsive pornography use, and after developing a process focused on addressing shame as the root, her clients saw amazing success. This is why The Center for Overcoming Pornography exists.

Sara Brewer

Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma-informed coach. She has helped over a thousand people quit porn through her coaching programs and tens of thousands through her highly-rated podcast, Overcome Pornography for Good. Sara shares her story in her free webinars, but the simple version is that she saw shame's role in compulsive pornography use, and after developing a process focused on addressing shame as the root, her clients saw amazing success. This is why The Center for Overcoming Pornography exists.

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